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At 2010-03-02 17:21:10 (Central Time) someone
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Girlfriend issues
Hey all. So, I am looking for advice/snark. I have been with my girlfriend for many years. I love her with all my heart. We're a like in most ways. We love each other very much. But, our sex life is nearly non-existent. It's maybe one a month, if I'm lucky. She's not a very sexual person, even from the beginning. We've talked about it and she acknowledges that it's low but she thinks it's normal. She's very busy with school and work. I work about 60 hours a week but I still get antsy.
But I feel like I am like a wound up dog.
Anyway, I just felt like getting that off my shoulders.
------- Updated 2010-03-02 17:26:15 ------- Wham, I agree. Honestly, I think she's worth it. We've talked about marriage in a few years mainly for financial reasons etc. We're content with being partners.
| Whamdangler | Quote 2010-03-02 17:22:15 | Keep in mind, as you make any kinds of lasting decisions in the future, that she is VERY unlikely to change at all.
| | Dumb Ass Monkey | Quote 2010-03-02 17:58:09 | If it's good enough for you, stick with it. She's not likely to change. Either you love her enough to stick with her, or you need to move on.
| | BrianMcCoy | Quote 2010-03-02 18:21:18 | She's not a very sexual person, even from the beginning
So, you've known about this from the get-go...
she acknowledges that it's low but she thinks it's normal.
...and it seems normal and ok to her.
Guess what? That is just how it is with her. The likelihood of her changing is infinitesimally small. Get used to “paying the bills” solo to sate yourself, or, if that is not satisfactory, find some other action (either inside or outside of the relationship, whatever option is agreeable to her), or break contact and start over with someone who is more sexually compatible.
| | KarmicHoax | Quote 2010-03-02 18:27:30 | She loves sex. She's just too polite to tell you how crappy you are at it.
| | BrianMcCoy | Quote 2010-03-02 18:52:06 | KarmicHoax: She loves sex. She's just too polite to tell you how crappy you are at it.
Or this. In which case, she is cheating on you, as well.
Hope you enjoy once-a-month sloppy seconds.
| | Stevarooni | Quote 2010-03-03 07:41:09 | Snark? You made your bed, now you get to lie in it.
Advice? Figure out if sex is important to you (especially at a higher rate than she wants). If it is, you're going to either be a DIY guy, or sleep with other people. Either way, you can't resent her because your libidos differ, so you need to figure this shiat out now and act accordingly.
| | Trivia Jockey | Quote 2010-03-05 09:52:13 | Don't worry, it's not REALLY once a month...it's only once a month WITH YOU.
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